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STILL Abstinent. STILL A Virgin. STILL Waiting. Everything of course has not changed lovelies despite my extreme exuberance to be single and remain that way until God allows me to meet my king, *cough, cough* @ quincy brown How much time I have invested in being God’s woman is too important for me to jeopardize it in any way for a few moments of pleasure, but TRUST it has not been easy. I have not always made the best decisions with my sex life and from pornography to compromising my own physical boundaries I have not ever been in such a secure and peace-filled place with God. Embracing my past has taught me not to run from this alone time. I am STILL learning to fight against the nay-sayers and doubters when it comes to my decision to wait. I found this scripture to be a beacon of hope for me and a giver of solace.I hope it helps you too Psalm 130:5-6 (NKJV) “I wait for the Lord, my soul waits, And in His word I do hope. My soul waits for the Lord More than those who watch for the morning-- Yes, more than those who watch for the morning.” Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings, <3 Nándi
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Can I be Candid?
Practicing for marriage is harder than I thought it would be/is not what I thought it would be. There was and still is a lot God has to show me about myself and about what a Godly marriage should exemplify and I have just now positioned myself to prepare to receive that information. This just doesn't happen overnight and unfortunately this process is not one size fits all. Each love story God has crafted is different and special. The preparation process is the same. We all have our own individual issues, spiritually, mentally emotionally and physically. Right now as a single the only advice I can give is not to compare your personal progress/relationship with anyone else's. It's toxic and does far more damage than it does to help a budding romance. Focus on loving God with your entire being and trust me, He'll get you together and prepared for who and what comes on the next level after you've proven yourself to be faithful as a single. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings, <3 Nándi Can I be candid?
Marriage ain't for me... YET! but I had the darnedest time admitting that truth to myself for the longest. I desperately wanted to be married, but I thought admitting to God as well as to myself that I needed some lessons on becoming a one-man woman for life would prolong the process. (patience was one of my toughest lessons if you can't tell lol) Then God checked me. I began to realize if I didn't have any practice as a single woman being faithful to God, of course I wouldn't have the skill sets to be an effective and successful wife with my husband. So I decided to do things God's way this time around. I started to read more about marriage and the reason for it and I became comforted in the scripture of where marriage began. Genesis 2:18 (NKJV) "And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." This scripture helped me believe in the God's timing and plan for my love life because if God wanted us to be single and saved 24/7 all the days of our lives He wouldn't have declared it to be a negative thing. God allowed Adam to be alone for a short while, to do his work (name the animals, tend to the garden etc.). However, God did not keep him single for long and Eve came through shortly after. Now I am not saying your prince charming is coming asap, nor am I claiming that things may take longer than you think. I only hope this scripture encourages you on your journey of purity as God writes your love story. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings, <3 Nándi Can I be candid?
I did not know how to wait nor did I understand why I had to wait for my husband until recently. Once I turned to my Bible I found my answer. I realized that a lot of the promises in the Bible took a significant amount of time for the people of God to receive. That's when I came up with the three P's first comes the promise, then comes the preparation (in the wait) finally there's patience. So lovelies, be encouraged, anything worth becoming and having is definitely worth working for. So continue your journey of purity and faithfulness no matter what! I have no doubt that each step you take towards God will bring both you and your future husband closer. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings, <3 Nándi 1st Corinthians 13:4-7 (NKJV) "4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not [b]puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, [c]thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." Can I be Candid?
it's been a minute but I know y'all have been holding it down for me and more importantly for yourselves! Here's what I know that I hope you guys do to, ACCEPTANCE is key. Once you accept your single season (because it is just that sugar boo's God DOES has someone set aside for you) You will enjoy yourself a whole lot more because you won't be anxious and worried about something that is already taken care of. One scripture that helps me in the wait is found in the book of Hebrews. Hebrews 12:2 (NKJV) "looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God." Jesus didn't enjoy the Cross but he endured it to give us exactly what He promised. Although the wait in this period pales in comparison to Jesus's will to die for all of humanity I think it could be applied to the waiting period as a single person too. While you might not enjoy the process of waiting, it's the preparation you NEED before you and your husband meet. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings, <3 Nándi My promise ring signifies the devotion of my entire life mind body and soul to God before I meet my husband. When I started out on this journey though I had super shallow reasons for wanting to remain a virgin until marriage.
Yeah I knew it was a sin to have sex before marriage, however I honestly just did not want to be talked about by guys maliciously so I decided that NO guy would be able to talk about me recklessly if they never got to have sex with me. Needless to say this reason to wait did not keep me from falling into some sexual immorality. But as I drew closer to God and became to understand His reason for waiting. I stopped compromising my standards for purity. I realized that I no longer cared about what anyone had to say about why I was waiting for sex. My motivation now was to honor God, not man. Sure one day I hope I am able to be married and bust it open for my husband but until that day sexless and satisfied I will remain. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings, <3 Nándi Can I be Candid? It’s easy to get caught up in waiting for the right guy and forsake making the most out of your time being single.
Here are a few tips that I have learned to help combat that possibility. 1.) Enjoy Your Company 2.) Accept Your Relationship Status 3.) Practice Faithfulness The most important part in those three tips for me is practicing faithfulness. As you are waiting make sure that you are honoring God spiritually with your ENTIRE being. For me that was difficult because I did not understand and appreciate the reason for waiting so I got caught up in a lot of nonsense by physically pushing the boundaries of how far I could take it with a boy I was interested in. Those “relationships” were short lived and a wreck if you want me to be Cándid. (Pun intended) Lovelies NO ONE wants an unfaithful spouse so practice being faithfully committed to the most perfect Bridegroom there is, and i have no doubt that you’ll be ready for your husband when you meet him. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings <3 Nándi Can I be candid?
Sometimes I look back and wonder how I got so blessed to be in a loving relationship with the creator of the universe. My mistakes use to haunt me ESPECIALLY the ones in this area of my life until I realized that if THE God of the entire world can love a person as flawed as me, mistakes past present and future already known, I must be worth more than the garbage that I had settled for before. So don't settle/compromise or lower your standards when you get discouraged as you wait for your husband. Enjoy your time in the most amazing relationship there is, Your relationship to God the Father, Jesus Christ the Son and The Holy Spirit. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessing, <3 Nándi Can I be candid?
Honesty about your need to be single may be gut wrenching at first but absolutely necessary. Single life is a blessing once you identify the ways your can develop your life into becoming a stronger woman in God spiritually, physically and mentally. It is not wrong to want to be with someone but if you try to make it happen out of time with God's plan for your life it is. So lovelies, hear me when I say this. Keep your focus and attention on being the best you for God in you season of single living. Psalm 84:11 (NKJV) "For the Lord God is a sun and shield; The Lord will give grace and glory; No good thing will He withhold From those who walk uprightly." Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings, <3 Nándi Can I be candid?
I'm impatient aF sometimes, especially with this area of my life. However, there are two pieces of advice that I use to check myself when I start getting a bit antsy in the wait. 1.) God's time is not my time. 2.) Enjoy life. Keep your head up lovelies & maintain your priorities. I have no doubt in my mind that God will send you your prince exactly when you both are ready. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings <3 Nándi |
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