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This week was especially rough in the wait (thanks hormones). I woke up thinking about my husband, went to sleep thinking about my husband and saints & aint's let me tell you it sucks missing someone you love. However, I remember those times when I would think about my husband and try to give myself, my time and attention to men who weren't him and those times sucked WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY worse. Anyway, I found some awsome coping mechanisims to help ease my mind and I will share some with you below. 1. Self Care Splurge Remind yourself that one you are complete in and of yourself through Jesus Colossians 2:!0 and go ahead and pamper yourself whether it be a treat from the store or a full on spa day #TREATYO'SELF 2.Focus On The Positive Sure there are plenty of things that can be negative for you to think about regarding the extensive waiting period before you meet your husband but honestly I haven't found one worth stressing over sooooo put on some positive patty panties and your big girl boots boo and think positive!!!! Waiting long ain't wrong sugasssss 3. That sex finna be immaculate! When I think about the guys I curve and the amount of sexual frustration I have pent up, TRUST me it makes me want to call all my ex flows back like "hey big head". BUT... I don't even bother. I remind myself that all this waiting and anticipation will be something spectacular and magical once I bust it open for my husband after our wedding. Thanks for reading lovelies!!! Peace & Blessings, <3 Nándi
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Can I be Candid? I didn't have sex yet because honestly I have heard so many negative stories from girls bout how painful the first time can be. I CAN'T STAND PHYSICAL PAIN! If I can avoid it I will. I also did not like the idea of having a guy being so intimate with me that he is allowed to collab with me in my most sacred space *whispers* (my Va-jay) Anywaysssss, as I got older I had some other things that I thought would be okay to share with you. Below are some of my own thoughts, concerns and questions I have surrounding sex. 1. I'M NOT FAKING IT. I have heard plenty of girls tell me they did not like what their partner did or what was going on but they acted like it just to appease their mans' ego... NOT I said the duck. I refuse to put up with sub par satisfaction and reward a man with an abundance of moans and false compliments. 2. I HOPE I don't have to fake it for my husband. Honestly one of the other reasons why I waited so long is because I don't want to embark on a sexual exploration that intimate with a man who isn't fully committed to me. & yeah i know i know i hear the cynical people in the back reading this blog like "niggas get divorced errr day B" *Rico voice* BUT IDC AS FOR ME AND MY FUTURE HOUSEHOLD IT AIN'T HAPPENIN'!
3. Is It NECESSARY to have sex right after the wedding? 4. Will it fit all the way in the first time? 5. Do I need to do tricks the first time? 6. Are there sex classes for virgins? 7. How can I apply to those classes? 8. How can I apply to those classes without my mom knowing? & while there are plenty of other thoughts and questions about the first time I will save them for a later time and professional. & please feel free to share some of your first time fears below. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessing, <3 Nándi Can I be Cándid?
Patience is a pain in the BUTT but necessary for any successful love story. One of the first descriptions of love is patient. 1st Corinthians 13:4 (NIV) "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud." God is not always going to give you what you want when you want it sugar (I say this from personal experience) HOWEVER, The more you grow in your relationship with God you’ll learn to trust His timing. Eventually God will reveal to you step by step His perfect will in the wait. Is it fun? Sometimes No. But I'd rather be in His will covered under God's grace then in my own will doing my own thing. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings <3 Nándi |
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