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Can I be candid?
I definitely used guys for attention and solely distractions to escape myself. I would distract myself with different guys and mediocre conversations just so that I wouldn’t have to sit in my singleness. I wanted to be married and all that good stuff but I wasn’t keen on the idea of not having constant attention in the boy department. I dreaded time by myself and I didn’t want to spend any more time alone with me because I thought being single was a problem that I had and I was certain I needed it to be fixed quickly. It wasn’t until graduate school that I realized how much of a gift my solitude is/was. (Don’t judge me rn this is a safe space lol). So one day I decided to take myself out on weekly dates. I needed to force myself to sit in my alone time, engage with my doubts, hopes and concerns about this area of my life in order to be able to enter into a healthy and functional relationship. Apart from the weekly dates I would also take time to pursue my passions and study languages, read and focus on reaching the short and long term goals I had set for myself. I encourage you lovelies to spend time ALONE with yourself. Cry, laugh, dream, pursue goals etc. But make sure that you are enjoying YOU!!!!! Because I guarantee if you don’t like and love you by yourself, eventually you won’t like and love you with someone else. Thanks for reading lovelies! Peace & Blessings, <3 Nándi
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